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THE ART OF BEING SMOOTH

10 Foolproof Ways To Make Yourself
More Interesting To Beautiful Women

10) Charm Her Friends

A new girl you've got your sites on?... Well, forget about her for the time being, and do what it takes to charm her friends. Once her friends are talking about you, if the original woman didn't know you existed a short time before, rest assured that she knows now. No matter what happens, remember not to get with her friends, only charm them... and (as said before), learn to tease them with your presence. Once her friends decide that you are a challenge, she'll pick this up from the way they talk about you and act around you... and the effect is that much greater.

CONVERSATION DYNAMICS
INTRODUCTION

Conversational skills will make you, and lack of them will break you. You may be the homeliest guy on the planet, but if you're good with words you can still have some serious game with women. It's not hard to be good with words - just pay attention to what you say and how you say it. Speak audibly - don't mumble or stutter, and put life into your hello's and goodbyes.


HOW TO BE A TRUE PLAYER
INTRODUCING THE 'KILLER INSTINCT

Most women are attracted to players. But many have too much of an ego to get with one. If they know that you're a player, then they know that there's a chance that they're going to get played and they don't want to give you that power. So never show your true colors.


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Charisma: An Overview

"charisma (n) : a personal attractiveness that enables you to influence others"


Seduction has always been the most talked about art, and that is because it is more easily grasped. Learning the art of seduction is retrospective (looking outward), while charisma is introspective (looking inward). Charisma is the ultimate state of mind...

IT'S THE SAME OLD SCENARIO: You and your friends want to hang out and go to a club, but you
want a club where the women are attractive and have some class. There might be twenty or so
nightclubs to choose from, but with standards like these you really only have four or five.
And forget it - as much as your optimistic-adrenaline-testosterone self would like to believe,
there is no such place as "Club Orgy." Bar hop all night, and you'll come closer to finding The
Lost City of Atlantis before you'll find a club where the women that you've set your standards
for are down for the one night action you've got on your mind.

Unless of course you've got some serious game. "Game" translates in all cultures to a similar state of mind: Charisma. But what exactly is Charisma? We'll tell you what it's not - It's not arrogance. And it's not pretentiousness. It's an aura that surrounds you, that attracts people to you. Great leaders in history understood this - Hitler entranced the small country of Germany into following him in a pursuit of World Domination. The greatest con artists used charisma to lull their victims into sometimes giving up fortunes and life savings. And actor's on screen portray it in their carefully written lines and parts, when in all reality they may lack true charisma off the set. Brad Pitt has charisma on the screen - and you can bet that he's not as charismatic off it. And remember Tom Cruise in Top Gun - every guy wanted to be like him for years after that movie came out.

Both of these actors are American icons, their on-screen personas developed over the years by numerous writers, directors, and people paid to teach "presence." You know, the same kind of people that instruct run-way models how to enter a room and command the attention of all just by the way they carry themselves.

Maybe an easy way to make the word charisma understandable is to define it as knowing when to speak, and what to say when you speak, knowing when not to speak, and knowing how to carry yourself throughout. This takes discipline, which is acquired with practice. Actors are expected to rehearse the same parts over and over again to get things just right for the camera. Writers re-write their pieces sometimes repeatedly before their scripts are finally approved to begin a film shoot.

As an example of what we mention above, look hard at the fine detail that Hollywood uses to craft the "on-screen presence" of a main or central character. A main or central character must command attention throughout the film to hold the audience's interest. The more attention they command, through elements of intrigue, mystery, and action, the greater their on-screen presence (also referred to as persona). Many elements go in to this "on-screen presence" - these are elements of charisma.

But this is real life, not Hollywood. In reality, and as charisma applies to the social scene and to the women involved in the social scene, it's all about diplomacy.

THE FIRST ELEMENT: MANNER
"manner (n) : a way of acting or behaving"

If your presence and regal bearing have given women the impression that you're an important person and that you're considered an important person by others, manner, as we use it here, refers to how you act and behave in relation. What, then, is the manner of a charismatic persona?


THE SECOND ELEMENT: ENIGMA
"enigma (n) : An action, mode of action, or thing, which cannot be satisfactorily explained"

In a world growing increasingly dull and familiar, what seems enigmatic instantly draws attention. Especially when it comes to today's dating / relationship arena. Many women tend to rate guys in the same grouping: little self-control, jerks when they don't get what they want, egotistical, loud, boring, macho, aggressive. . . So anything you can do to distance yourself from this group of "typical guys" stands to get you noticed - because your distance cannot be quickly and easily explained.


THE THIRD ELEMENT: ALLURE
"allure (n) : the power to entice or attract through personal charm "

Ah, the last of the elements. It is the essence of charisma. But without the other elements, it would never be reached. When we've mentioned "aura" as a part of charisma, allure is that aura. It is infective. Women and guys alike are drawn in. Suddenly you find yourself surrounded by many friends and girlfriends ("groupies"). And once in your presence, it's hard for them to distance themselves - as long as you continue to pay attention to each individual element. For example, diplomacy: When you excel in diplomacy, you learn to make others feel better about themselves, becoming a source of pleasure to them. In fact, they grow dependent on your manner to feel good about themselves. You may call them friends, but psychologically they become your followers. Other people read this - and enigma kicks in and heightens the effect: these other people start to wonder subconsciously: There must be something exceptional ("cool" or "charming") about you that's making people want to be around you. . . What is it? Imaginations start to race.


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